A neurologist says when a person experiences failure, his brain releases a stress hormone called cortisol that leaves him vulnerable, cast off, and detrimental. It increases the level of glucose in the blood and hinders functions that are vital in fight or flight response. Consistency of it would lead you to chronic stress and diabetes, high blood pressure, and sleep disorders. Now this disruption takes place inside of your body and has much more harmful effects than the one taking place in the outer world, that is extreme frustration, strong reactions, embarrassment, and regret. And if you doubt your ability to overcome these emotions. It develops into self-doubting emotions that ultimately become a part of one’s personality.
1. Change The Narrative
All that happens because, since the very first day of our theoretical and professional lives, we are taught the concepts of “sink and swim” and are modeled to become an ideal aspirant, an overachiever. Nothing less than that is socially and personally acceptable. So when a person fails, people with their destructive criticism makes it intemperate for him to take heart and move it. Do cut these unfavorable judgments and have a look at these 5 ways that can help you handle your failures in life graciously.
2. Re-Evaluate Your System Of Rules
No one deems failure to be an outcome of any of their initiatives. For them, failure comes with severe impact and consequences because they never deemed it as an eventful experience that can help them improve their ways. Our generations are inculcated with the fear of failure, interpreting the concept as the opposite of success, negative, imperfection, and personal deficiency. Well, this may sound weird, but failure is as much needed as success as it helps us realize our goals and defeats. And with positive and constructive criticism, it can help us optimize our learnings and experiences. It is important for our academic and professional mentors to change the narrative and accept failure as an invaluable experience and teach others how to take responsibility and learn from it.
3. Don’t Erase The Mistake
Usually, when people come out of any immediate failures after repetitive blaming and regret, they tend to erase their mistakes and their effects. It may sound good but it isn’t in practicality. as if you will delete the experience, you will also remove the wisdom you got from it, the learning, the behavior, the process, that is really needed and effective to get through in your next move. Never erase the mistake, take responsibility, reflect over it and learn from the adversity. The wrong turns you take along the way do not define you. They shape you into what you are today and you are surely a better version of yourself than you were yesterday. It means that you learn from your experiences, your mistakes, and failures and lead yourself to smooth sailing.
4. Don’t Dwell Over Your Failure
Dwelling on your past failures is merely a waste of time. Unless you evaluate the whole process, realize your mistake, learn from it and move it. There is an instance when one feels humiliated, degraded, and demeaned after experiencing a failure and he needs to gain his trust, self-esteem, and confidence all over again as some lose it along the way. This requires a new, positive and constructive relationship of one with oneself as your image is tarnished in your own eyes. So, instead of consuming your time being guilty and regretting, focus on commencing a more gratified, valuable, and satisfied relationship with yourself and buck up for another try. Failure, for sure, leads to success, only if you learn from it.
Life is jumbled and so are our experiences and relationship. The key is to wake up every day and start anew. It cannot be avoided. It cannot be wasted time on. It cannot be stagnant. It can only be learned from. It is just an experience, a much-needed experience, for the sake of success, for the sake of yourself.